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#1 Oct 17 2007 at 2:09 AM Rating: Decent
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So... Let's say you did something pretty bad and hurt the feelings of a person you care for with all your heart on a drunken night... And you feel really really bad about letting it happen...

What would be best way to appologize to her and try and keep the relationship going as well? ; ;
#2 Oct 17 2007 at 2:25 AM Rating: Excellent
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Go back in time and warn your past self not to make the mistake.

Edited, Oct 17th 2007 6:25am by Paskil
#3 Oct 17 2007 at 2:30 AM Rating: Good
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Say said angry friend broke your time machine...?
#4 Oct 17 2007 at 2:31 AM Rating: Excellent
"Dude, My bad."




Works every time.
#5 Oct 17 2007 at 2:31 AM Rating: Good
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Keep it in your pants, let her cut it off, wear a chastity belt, let her sodomize you with a hot iron.


The list goes on and on.
#6 Oct 17 2007 at 2:34 AM Rating: Decent
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You're not really helping, Duo >_>
#7 Oct 17 2007 at 2:47 AM Rating: Decent
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Ok, then explain one thing. Was she a friend, or was she "more than a friend?" And am I on the money when it comes to what you did?
#8 Oct 17 2007 at 2:53 AM Rating: Good
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This question is up there with "How do I make a person like me," in level of relevant information needed to answer the question being provided. You aren't apologizing to some generic individual; you are apologizing to this specific person. Flowers and a card are not going to benefit you at all. You need a specific response that fits this person's needs and the situation. You may be embarrassed about it, but providing us with details will better help us help you.

Here are a few general suggestion:
1. Is this person angry at you or simply hurt? This is a question of whether they need space right now or not, whether you being around them right now is going to make things worse or not. If they don't even feel like talking to you then forcing your apology on them is going to aggravate the situation.

2. Is this person fully aware of your regret or are they not? Answering this question allows you decide on a course of action. If they already know how sorry you are then saying so again is wasteful, you should begin trying to make it up to them (by say taking them some place they enjoy). If they are not aware that you regret what you have done then you should rectify that immediately. If you do not then they will feel as if you do not care and do not feel you have wronged them.

3. Avoid monetary compensation for emotional damages. Simply buying them something usually sends the message you care more about them not being angry with you than how they actually feel. Possibly courses of actions could be simply doing something they really enjoy (For one time infractions), or discussing the issue so they feel you are trying to never make such a mistake again (for usually recurring problems).
#9 Oct 17 2007 at 2:56 AM Rating: Good
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Allegory wrote:
This question is up there with "How do I make a person like me," in level of relevant information needed to answer the question being provided. You aren't apologizing to some generic individual; you are apologizing to this specific person. Flowers and a card are not going to benefit you at all. You need a specific response that fits this person's needs and the situation. You may be embarrassed about it, but providing us with details will better help us help you.

Here are a few general suggestion:
1. Is this person angry at you or simply hurt? This is a question of whether they need space right now or not, whether you being around them right now is going to make things worse or not. If they don't even feel like talking to you then forcing your apology on them is going to aggravate the situation.

2. Is this person fully aware of your regret or are they not? Answering this question allows you decide on a course of action. If they already know how sorry you are then saying so again is wasteful, you should begin trying to make it up to them (by say taking them some place they enjoy). If they are not aware that you regret what you have done then you should rectify that immediately. If you do not then they will feel as if you do not care and do not feel you have wronged them.

3. Avoid monetary compensation for emotional damages. Simply buying them something usually sends the message you care more about them not being angry with you than how they actually feel. Possibly courses of actions could be simply doing something they really enjoy (For one time infractions), or discussing the issue so they feel you are trying to never make such a mistake again (for usually recurring problems).



Going along with the bolded statement, do you regret that you did it or that you were caught? In other words, with hindsight being 20/20, would you, could you ever make that mistake again?
#10 Oct 17 2007 at 3:10 AM Rating: Decent
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Flowers will help. Attached to an "I'm so so sorry" card.
#11 Oct 17 2007 at 3:13 AM Rating: Excellent
Let her bang a black dude in front of you. That will even things out.

You cheated on her I'd imagine right?
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Guess he didn't like the advice Smiley: confused
#13 Oct 17 2007 at 3:19 AM Rating: Decent
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His Excellency Soracloud wrote:
You cheated on her I'd imagine right?

If he did, honestly I really don't feel like helping. It really is just such a ridiculously unintelligent thing to do.
#14 Oct 17 2007 at 3:42 AM Rating: Good
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Allegory wrote:
It really is just such a ridiculously unintelligent thing to do.


So would be following your initial advice, providing us with more information.
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#15 Oct 17 2007 at 3:45 AM Rating: Decent
Uglysasquatch, Mercenary Major wrote:
Allegory wrote:
It really is just such a ridiculously unintelligent thing to do.


So would be following your initial advice, providing us with more information.


kid might be a glutton for punishment, you never know.
#16 Oct 17 2007 at 3:48 AM Rating: Good
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Awfully early for you to be up, isn't it?
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#17 Oct 17 2007 at 3:50 AM Rating: Good
Uglysasquatch, Mercenary Major wrote:
Awfully early for you to be up, isn't it?


Pffft she's young, probably just going to bed after a long night of boozin'


I miss being young Smiley: frown
#18 Oct 17 2007 at 3:52 AM Rating: Default
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His Excellency Soracloud wrote:
Uglysasquatch, Mercenary Major wrote:
Awfully early for you to be up, isn't it?


Pffft she's young, probably just going to bed after a long night of boozin'


I miss being young Smiley: frown
At least you're still fuсking hot ******* like you were young?

Or am I giving you too much credit here? Let me know if I am.
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#19 Oct 17 2007 at 3:55 AM Rating: Good
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Or am I giving you too much credit here? Let me know if I am.


Nope, Sora's one lucky dude. His wife is a hotty and since he's never ******* about her once on the forums, I assume she's quite sane too.
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#20 Oct 17 2007 at 3:55 AM Rating: Decent
Kakusaijin wrote:
His Excellency Soracloud wrote:
Uglysasquatch, Mercenary Major wrote:
Awfully early for you to be up, isn't it?


Pffft she's young, probably just going to bed after a long night of boozin'


I miss being young Smiley: frown
At least you're still fuсking hot ******* like you were young?

Or am I giving you too much credit here? Let me know if I am.


Smiley: lol

Make it ***** instead of ******* then yeah its true.

I kid I kid! She is a little angel Smiley: nod


#21 Oct 17 2007 at 3:57 AM Rating: Excellent
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I assume she's quite sane too.


She married Sora....
#22 Oct 17 2007 at 3:57 AM Rating: Default
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His Excellency Soracloud wrote:
Kakusaijin wrote:
His Excellency Soracloud wrote:
Uglysasquatch, Mercenary Major wrote:
Awfully early for you to be up, isn't it?


Pffft she's young, probably just going to bed after a long night of boozin'


I miss being young Smiley: frown
At least you're still fuсking hot ******* like you were young?

Or am I giving you too much credit here? Let me know if I am.


Smiley: lol

Make it ***** instead of ******* then yeah its true.

I kid I kid! She is a little angel Smiley: nod
Lucky. Mine still gives me a hard time whenever she gets the chance.

Can't beat that innuendo with a stick.
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#23 Oct 17 2007 at 3:58 AM Rating: Good
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I assume she's quite sane too.


She married Sora....


Smiley: tongue


Smiley: lol @ Kaku

Edited, Oct 17th 2007 7:58am by Soracloud
#24 Oct 17 2007 at 4:10 AM Rating: Excellent
Uglysasquatch, Mercenary Major wrote:
Awfully early for you to be up, isn't it?


I go to bed at midnight and get up at 5:30 every morning to run 3 miles.

Just because your old doesn't mean i have to be :P
#25 Oct 17 2007 at 4:13 AM Rating: Default
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Blacktuesday wrote:
Uglysasquatch, Mercenary Major wrote:
Awfully early for you to be up, isn't it?


I go to bed at midnight and get up at 5:30 every morning to run 3 miles.

Just because your old doesn't mean i have to be :P
I don't know how much it has to do with being old. You aren't much younger than me, and I know for damn sure you won't see me running anywhere at five thirty in the morning.

I'm lucky if I even make it down the stairs in one piece.
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#26 Oct 17 2007 at 4:16 AM Rating: Good
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Blacktuesday wrote:
Uglysasquatch, Mercenary Major wrote:
Awfully early for you to be up, isn't it?


I go to bed at midnight and get up at 5:30 every morning to run 3 miles.

Just because your old doesn't mean i have to be :P
I don't know how much it has to do with being old. You aren't much younger than me, and I know for damn sure you won't see me running anywhere at five thirty in the morning.

I'm lucky if I even make it down the stairs in one piece.


dammit i was trying to have playful old man flirting banter with ugly and you had to go logialisize it. Smiley: mad
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